It was just another day.
Woke up in the morning.
Drank my coffee, while reading the paper.
Got the kids ready for school.
School drop off.
Have you ever had a day like that? One that just started out as any normal day, but ended up changing your life?
I know I have. And I have always been completely oblivious to what was about to happen.
One such incident was when I was made redundant at 7 months pregnant. Yah, a shitty spot, to say the least. But pregnancy is one amazing thing, somehow, I just kept cool. It’s almost as if your body is shutting certain emotions and reactions off, in order to save you and your baby from damaging stress levels. Then again, becoming redundant is of course a petty problem to deal with compared to what a lot of mothers face out there, especially in countries of war, famine and natural disasters. It can of course not be compared.
Being made redundant turned out to be a blessing in disguise, similar to many other such situations I have ended up in throughout the last decade. I have understood that sometimes life/God/ Universe is steering you in a certain direction and there are plenty of road signs along the way. But when you choose to ignore those signs out of fear or convenience and don’t pull it together and take the step you are supposed to take, then life takes it for you. On the day, it can feel like the biggest disaster ever, panic and paranoia can quickly come upon you. But something else that comes upon you, should also be freedom; someone else made that final decision for you, life pulled the plug on your lack of action and ensured you move as per the grand plan.
It takes guts, though, to follow those early signs. The people around you, whose opinions you value, may think you have gone completely bonkers, and that you are risking too much or making the wrong decision. As my grandmother always said (and I am sure I will refer to like 1 Million times in this blog): – “When you get advice, don’t just take it, put it into your statistics”. She was so amazing, and so right. I am sure a lot of you Mumz out there have at some point in your lives taken advice blindly, and ended up regretting it, because you realized that the advice given had in fact been based on the persons own fears or worst case, jealousy, and he/she had no insight or knowledge as to the particular situation you were in. No value added. Not to say you shouldn’t listen, but just make sure you are careful with who, why and what, in relation to any advice given. It’s important to live your own life, make your own decisions, based on what you feel is the right thing to do for you and your little unit.
I suppose, during my short life (Forever 21 btw), I have taken a few more or less bold decisions. To me, however, they have not been all that bold, perhaps because I have always trusted my instincts. It has led me to where I am today. And I am not talking about anything materialistic or financial here, I am referring to me, to my character. Challenging yourself in different environments and connecting with people from all over the world, has given me resilience and above all, no fear. Fear is one of the most dangerous emotions out there; it cripples people from pursuing their dreams, it disables possible beautiful interactions between people from different parts of the world and it makes people so obsessive about their stuff, money and power, to the point where the fear of losing it consumes them and makes them do crazy things to other people! Urgh, I despise fear. Be sensible, yes, don’t be careless and brash, but don’t be scared.
So, on one of those days, when your life suddenly changes drastically and you have to reassess what you have, what you want and where you are going in life, embrace the moment, and appreciate the fact that you are on the right path, wherever it may lead you. And above all, have no fear.